“This first steps e-book for betrayed spouses and partners is exactly what partners need when they discover they are involved with someone with compulsive sexual behaviors. It is a tool that helps partners keep their head above water while moving forward. What I appreciated most was the step-by-step foundational necessities that really assist partners in focusing on their own process of healing. The information is clear and provides hope and empowerment. I sure wish this resource had been available 10 years ago when I was barely treading water after discovery; I believe it would have made a huge difference at the early early stage of my own healing journey. A nice bonus is that it also includes an entire section, information, and resources for the addict.”

“Against the backdrop of such crisis-induced chaos, Mari has managed to do the “nearly impossible”. In the 48 pages of Healing Betrayal: First Steps for Partners and Spouses of Sex and Pornography Addicts, Mari cuts through the white noise of conflicting advice—a cacophony that keeps many of us stuck in harm’s way. With an impressive balance of nuanced sensitivity (the kind that’s usually borne from personal wounding) and emphatic directness (the kind that’s usually birthed from years of professional clinical experience), Mari empowers readers to absorb a number of “must know” truths and non-disputable priorities. She presents a focused checklist of important and critical factors, including several that literally save lives (from STIs to suicide) in the aftermath of sexual betrayal. The result is a fast-and-powerful read, one that’s practical, soothing and strategic—making it an ideal starting place for those who can’t bear waiting for ambiguous answers.

As a twenty-year survivor of my own betrayal trauma, THIS is the help I needed at the very beginning. I needed a volume that neither dismissed my trauma (which remained unnamed for nearly a decade) nor demonized my husband (whom I still loved, despite his shocking infidelity). I needed an expert with time in the trenches (enough time, I might add, to warrant my faith in her clinical expertise). I needed an author who loved her readers enough to be unapologetically but compassionately direct, something many therapists are (perhaps understandably) hesitant to do. Most of all, I needed a friend to wrap me in her big, beautiful, warm vote of confidence, assuring me that if she could survive her own experience of sexual betrayal, then maybe (just maybe) I could survive mine, too.

I’ve learned how exceptionally RARE it is to find these gifts in one amazing resource!

All I can say is... better late than never.”